The World Makes Little Sense

[mishalak]

I've always known it didn't. After Tuesday I expected this, armoire_man is dying of his brain cancer. He's being moved to a hospice. His wife gave us the news via a mailing list many of his local friends are on.

The last time I saw him was at brunch, Sunday October 22nd, if I am remembering the sequence correctly. He was not looking good even then and he had surgery scheduled for the next Thursday (26th). He was released to a rehab center a week later (Oct. 30th) and there was some hope that he'd get better. But this week on Monday the 13th he was back in ICU. There was not any word for a while and I quietly assumed the worst, because that's my pessimistic nature. I'm not crying much now and I'm okay, expecting the worst blunts the blow when it falls. At least for me.

The doctor says that he doesn't expect him to make Christmas. I expect I'll go see him and try to convey that I love him as a friend, though since he doesn't seem to understand language very well it will have to be all in my expression or something. I've written a letter of sympathy and now it is time I went to bed. I stayed up too late trying to find the right words.

I don't expect the world to be fair, I'm an atheist. So is armoire_man.
 

Comments

[gerisullivan.livejournal.com]

Sympathy. Now and later. To you, his family, friends near and far.

What an intense situation.

The few words I have aren't right to my eyes. I read amoire_man's LJ and found much of value in his telling of the experience.

""Love is no magic, no dream of fate, no passion of night.
Love is life. True life. Life true and mad." -- Anon

[mishalak.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I'll pass on your words at brunch if Carol is there.

[ckd]

May he have comfort.

May you and his other friends and family likewise have comfort.

[mishalak.livejournal.com]

Thanks

[thirdworld.livejournal.com]

Oy, that sucks. E-hugs are a sterile thing, but I offer them to you anyway. Hang in there. Losing friends sucks bad, but we will always have them as a part of ourselves.

[mishalak.livejournal.com]

Thanks

[jcfiala.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I know. I caught the news last night right before bed, and lay in bed for a few hours unable to sleep.

Damn it. I really like him, too. He was a fun guy to chat with.

[whumpdotcom.livejournal.com]

Damn. This is horrid news, but I appreciate you passing it on. I never got to meet him in person, but appreciated reading his LJ. My sympathies to you, his many friends, and family.

[mishalak.livejournal.com]

You are welcome, and thanks.

[mjlayman.livejournal.com]

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. As an atheist, I find Jo's poem There is Comfort in the Knowledge (http://groups.google.ca/group/rec.arts.sf.fandom/msg/f63fb3cb3e82f16f?hl=en&) rather comforting.

[margorand.livejournal.com]

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend. Cancer is vicious and unfair. If you're up to it, either now or in the future, the Toronto Globe and Mail has a good (and sad) series of profiles (http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20061117.wdayinthelifeintro/BNStory/cancer/home) of people with cancer. It's a tough read but also inspiring in how people are able to cope with this disease.

[housespinner.livejournal.com]

Miss Shalak, my heart goes out to you and armoire_man. :\ *hugs*