A Few Annotations to My Sexuality

[mishalak]

The thought occurred to me today that I've never explained what I mean when I say that I'm gay. I use it as a short hand because I'm about 80-90% attracted to men and don't want to go through the bother of explaining this every single time. Also it should be noted I am not quite as driven by sex as many other men or at least that is how it seems. Sure I've done a goodly number of stupid things over sex, especially right after I came out, but over all I seem quite a bit less likely to say yes to sex with a cute stranger than many of my peers. Maybe I'm just more demanding rather than less driven by sex, I'm probably not the best person to judge.

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[http://users.livejournal.com/kai_/]

So, the 10-20% of women that are attractive to you --
what qualities do they have that make you attracted to them?

[mishalak.livejournal.com]

Tomboys. Well I think they're grown up tomboys anyways. Women who are somewhat strong (mentally, attitude comes across) and dress well but not excessively feminine. Which could also be reversed to describe the men I'm attracted to. Gay with just enough butch. I also think that describes myself, but perhaps my ego paints a slightly flattering picture of my own behavior.

If she didn't have such big breasts I might have been attracted to the character of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Physicality plays its part (because I'm shallow), but obviously it isn't the only thing.

From a purely physical point of view, sure I'm like so many other Americans, I like relatively thin people (though not like a super model, ick. Big breasts and no waist are not a turn on to me) guys or gals. But given the way I work I suspect that if I ever hit it off with a person as a deeply madly great friend my brain will probably trump the body to some extent. Slightly fey has its atractions too.

And I'm rambling.

[http://users.livejournal.com/kai_/]

It's your journal. Ramble as much as you want. :)

I could pretty much garauntee you wouldn't find me physically attractive, as I've got HUGE breasts. That's just the way they came.

But, I'm a bit manly for a woman who is so well endowed. When I shaved my head, everyone thought I was a butch lesbian. That was entertaining for me.

[mishalak.livejournal.com]

<grin> So are you going to try to seduce me when you see me at a con?

[http://users.livejournal.com/kai_/]

Well, I could try. :)

I've never been to a con in my life, so that might be a bit challenging...

So, yes, if I ever see you at a con, I'll give my best shot at trying to seduce you. At least the flirting will be fun.