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mishalakLast Sunday, while it was snowing furiously, I had a very interesting conversation with ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
friendly_drelb. I asked her about making friends in the workplace and she introduced me to a very useful word. Propinquity means nearness in distance or time and she called friendships mainly based upon factors like where we work friendships of propinquity. She went on to note that everyone seems to form these sorts of friendships when very young. We end up being friends with the other children who live on the same block, in the same classroom, and so on. But by the time we're in high school most of our friendships are based upon common interest and may keep together longer.
Not everyone is like this though. Rose related how some people are mystified by people remaining friends even when they can no longer do things together on a regular basis. It also seems to me that science fiction fans go to the other extreme. If they don't have something in common with other people they don't want to be friends with them just because it would be convenient. I suppose part of that is that other people tend to have more common interests, football or whatever as a common glue to hold together convenient relationships.
If I had the money to just do whatever I wanted I might do a study on this. It would be interesting to find out how and why people make friends.
friendly_drelb. I asked her about making friends in the workplace and she introduced me to a very useful word. Propinquity means nearness in distance or time and she called friendships mainly based upon factors like where we work friendships of propinquity. She went on to note that everyone seems to form these sorts of friendships when very young. We end up being friends with the other children who live on the same block, in the same classroom, and so on. But by the time we're in high school most of our friendships are based upon common interest and may keep together longer.Not everyone is like this though. Rose related how some people are mystified by people remaining friends even when they can no longer do things together on a regular basis. It also seems to me that science fiction fans go to the other extreme. If they don't have something in common with other people they don't want to be friends with them just because it would be convenient. I suppose part of that is that other people tend to have more common interests, football or whatever as a common glue to hold together convenient relationships.
If I had the money to just do whatever I wanted I might do a study on this. It would be interesting to find out how and why people make friends.