Life's a Show and We All Play Our Parts

[mishalak]

I've made up my mind that I won't be going to town this weekend. I don't feel like going, I don't feel like prodding the Merry Gang into showing up, and I'm going to spend the weekend in bed with a John M. Ford story collection. I don't know about the whole gay geeks thing. As usual with my plan I haven't got it thought out. I suppose I wanted to make some friends, foolish me to think that I could get any of them to show up or even to say when they could show up. Fuck it.

Comments

[trevorfrost.livejournal.com]

Geeks and Gay Men tend to be flakey, doubly so with Gay Geeks, I wouldn't neccesarily write them all off if I were you but I understand your frustration... It seems more and more these days people don't want to make any form of commitment to anything of any sort... Every geeky and/or gay group that I belong to has a complete disinterest in organization, responsibilty, leadership, and regularity. Not only that but trying to formalize anything by injecting a little of the above mentioned into a group tends to just make people completely dissapear... Its all very confusing considering how often I hear people complain in the groups that I hang out with about things that can only be fixed with such things..

[mishalak.livejournal.com]

I don't want to be a leader or anything, I'm not good at it. I just would like some feedback on if they're interested or not. Am I being a self important bastard who people are only showing up to get to shut up?

[trevorfrost.livejournal.com]

Let me give you an example, I am part of a Furry Group here in Minnesota, it was originally just a group of friends that got together and it blossmed into a bi weekly thing that has at times over 30-40 people coming to them.

You don't really need a leader per say for a small group. But this whole gay geek thing is your idea right? So even if you don't want to be leader people will see you as responsible for it even if you don't want to be.

Personally I don't see you as self important. You just want your plans to go your way. But keep in mind that in order to do so you have to be persistant, tenacious, and willing to deal with the fact that people are flakey...